We started to do this segment for a couple of reasons. We hope to bring awareness to some truths and misconceptions in this industry while getting to know our colleagues a little bit better.
- Do you have any specific memory of weird clients?
Oh, boy do I ever. The majority of the weirdness I experience is at the rack/stage. Whether they blow on my box or stroke my butt after putting a dollar in my g-string. I smack their wrists hard whenever anyone stroke my body while I’m dancing on the rack.
This one time, a guy full on stroke my vulva when my panties were still on. I remember him being that client that I have ever hit the hardest for breaking any rule in my club. I even threatened to kick him if he did something like that again. Security decided that he is to be kicked out if he touched someone again, so before my next set, I told them: “if I shout or kick him, that is your cue.” They nodded & said “Gotcha,” and when I got on stage for my next set, this guy and his friend looked terrified of me while I acted all sweet, wiping the pole and greeting people. Those guys while looking at me, walked away slowly and out the door they went.
- What is the weirdest wish form a client you have received?
*In a creepy, huffy voice*: “Shit in my mouth, please.”
- Biggest advice to younger dancers?
Start a savings system of a sort with your money. I had this card that I found from the Instagram handle @yourneighborhoodstripper that had heels drawn on it with numbers on the platforms. It looked like a bingo card and even had a free space for a bad shift. By the time you fill the card out, you have 1 grand put aside already. I got up to $650 out of the $1000 before I had to crack and take care of some emergencies recently. My next biggest advice is to start an emergency fund!
- What is the most embarrassing song you have ever danced to?
Anything by Nickelback is embarrassing to dance to (laughs).
- What would you change in this industry if you had a chance?
Less rejection towards the dancers with disabilities would be nice. I work with a dancer who has only has 2 fingers and she dances like a dream! She told me that clubs have turned her away because of her missing fingers. As a dancer with Autism and another mental, physical health problems myself, I have seen people enter this line of work because civilian work is too hard with their disability. Physical or otherwise. I, myself, being one of those people. I think this industry needs to be more welcoming to those who couldn’t do civilian work for any reason and to be more helpful during any transitions in our life that we need to make.
- Which country do you think is the best to work in from your experience?
I’ve never traveled outside of the USA, so I wouldn’t know yet.
- Do you have any fears and what would be the biggest one?
My biggest fear would be getting attacked on the job. I work in a club where contact is allowed & boundaries are a very big deal to me. Anyone crossing those boundaries will be considered suspicious and creepy, not just by me though.
- Your wildest dream?
- Can we ask you to give advice on 3 most important things for dancers who have just entered this industry?
1. Do NOT splurge right after a good night, instead utilize a system where you only bring the money you’re going to spend when you leave your home. Put the rest in a jar, envelope, safe, etc. until you need a portion again. I have found that leaving with every dime I have tempts me into spending more than I should.
2. Make your boundaries firm and clear. If you don’t feel it’s worth to sit with a guy, no matter how thick their wallet may be, then bail. I’ve had to walk away from guys who cross lines because their money was not worth throwing my mental health in the wringer like that.
3. Take care of your feet! Our feet aren’t meant to be wearing platforms on the regular and a good chunk of us are already. Get a pedicure if you can or even massage your own feet with your favorite lotion on your days off. (Important thing to add) and that is the only time you should ever wear lotion as a dancer. On your days off.
- If you could leave only one advice to this world:
Remember the difference between pushing your limits and exceeding your limits in everything you do. Limits are limits, they should never be breached or exceeded. If it’s too much, stop. Have goals and milestones in mind, but don’t compromise your health for them.
- What do you expect from an agency you are working with? What are the most important things in an agency for you personally?
A desire to put me in a safe work environment, desire to make the best of my career as I do, and making sure my agent isn’t a pimp before I count on them. An agent/agency wants the best out of their clients and as a client, I want to work in a place that’s safe and makes me lots of money. If I have to give too big of a handful to them in exchange for their help, that’s more of a pimp than an agent. Oh, and the ability to help if things go wrong in my travels. Agents are a form of support, so if we have an agent or an agency, they are going to be counted on when things go wrong. If I miss my flight or if a manager at a club is being unruly, I need to know I will be safe regardless and that my agent can help me get home or to a different club if the need arises.
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